It seems to be the destiny of reasonable people to ‘understand’ and tolerate fools. Why are we so understanding of those that hurt us? We almost trap ourselves into paralyzing inaction about doing anything that could even hint at our own loss of character, and get taken advantage of because of it. In Christianity we focus on forgiveness first, but we are so quick to forgive for our own piece of mind and rarely investigate and thoroughly process how we are actually affected by situations.
I would say, for the most part we don’t want to think about the ‘bad’ stuff and so try to suck it up and get over it as quickly as possible. I don’t think that is the best way to figure things out… what are we missing?
Couple that with a nieve understanding of judgement when in truth we make judgements about things all the time, in every day life. We have to to survive. Judgements about friendships, about business decisions, about how to react to situations in life. But we don’t judge the big things… or if we attempt to then the accused trump out their self righteous belief that they, for some reason, should not be judged and we are less of a person for doing so.
The truth is, at some point, those perpetrators made a judgement about our ‘reasonableness’ and decided that, they, for whatever reason could get away with it. And then what… when they don’t get away with it, or they get called on it by reasonable people -suddenly they feel oppressed and judged.
Transference by them? Possibly. Okay to do? Don’t think so.
All I know is that you should never shy away from making the difficult call just because you would risk repercussions.
It’s amazing how information, honesty and truth reveal unreasonable people for who they really are. Don’t be silent while unreasonable people continue to be that.
I read a quote somewhere about WWII that summarized things this way.
The greatest crimes in Germany were not just committed by the perpetrators… but by the silence of reasonable people.
I never want to be that person.